When it came time to talk about our wedding ceremony we both immediately knew we wanted to do some things a little bit different.
We spent many a night trying to come up with something along the lines of a unity candle, or the mixing of the two kinds of sand for a unity type of ceremony, but nothing really felt like us.
Then J. Alabama dug back into his New Mexican roots, and remembered a beautiful Native American tradition of the double vase ceremony.
This vase was given to us from J. Alabama’s parents (which is tradition for the parents of the groom to gift the vase). It was handmade in Santa Fe, New Mexico.
The the double vase ceremony goes like this.
The couple first drink from one side….
….then the vase is turned and each sip from the other side.
Finally, they both drink from the vase at the same time. This ceremony unites them as one.
It is said if the couple can drink from the vase at the same time and not spill a single drop, good understanding and a cooperative spirit will always be a part of their marriage.
And friends, let it be known that we did not spill a single drop!
I think what was so special to me about this part of our ceremony is that we were able to incorporate both of our lives and backgrounds into it.
The vase being from New Mexico, where he grew up. And just the fact that both of us has Native American background was also special to me.
I had never even heard of this type of ceremony before, and when J. Alabama suggested it I was beyond excited. Now our vase will be with us always to remind us of the vows we took together on July 23rd, 2011.
My biggest advice to anyone planning a wedding is to find something that is “YOU” and run with it. There is no right or wrong when it comes to your wedding. I was so happy we decided to incorporate this special tradition into our ceremony.