Our First Time

Today’s post is part of an ongoing Wedding Wednesday Series. My chance to ramble on about non-running, wedding related stuff.


Somehow, without intention, not for any specific reason, not due to religious views or worries of what our parent’s would think, or for convenience factors did we ever embark on an experience that today seems to be highly accepted.

It just never really became a huge issue for either of us.

We had even talked about it once or twice in casual conversation but then the conversation sort of dead ended.

We’ve been seeing each other for almost two years now and some are completely flabbergasted to the fact that we haven’t committed to this act just yet.

And honestly, I never thought of myself as that girl who would wait it out until marriage.

I seriously thought when I found the one I would jump all over the chance.

But it always seemed like there were so many other factors to incorporate too.

We didn’t just want to take this huge step lightly either. I mean this was a BIG commitment to make.

We also wanted our first time to be special. And it could make or break our relationship depending on how and when we decided to take the next step.

The longer we waited, the more I thought about it and wanted it.

I kind of wondered if he did too. I mean we had been dating quite awhile and really everything felt right.

And by the time we get married we will have been dating over two years which makes me even more nervous at times.

I just hope our first time isn’t too awkward you know?

I think what makes it more special for the both of us is knowing that it will be both our first times together.

But I know he will make the best roommate ever! 🙂

I find it funny that neither J. Alabama and I have lived with significant others before and have decided to wait until after our wedding to live together. Due to our leases and other random factors, it never really made sense to move in together until after the wedding.


This post was actually inspired by a post I read from Michelle last week.  This post had me in fits of laughter at all the little quirks and things that we have to look forward to once we wed and live together.

So technically this post is not a wedding Wednesday post per say, but it felt wedding Wednesday-esque.

So please, if you have any tips to share with the newbie (about living with your signif) , let me hear em’! I have had a boy roommate before, just not one that I was in a relationship with.

Happy Wedding Wednesday Friends!


11 thoughts on “Our First Time

  1. Just be flexible! It was very hard for me to relinquish control of the kitchen. But after I did, I realized how great it was to have someone else JUST AS CAPABLE in there. Now, Brent cooks as cleans just as much as I do and it’s a HUGE help!

  2. It’s so long ago that we started living together. It will all come naturally I guess. Yes there will be arguments but you’ll overcome them. If you respect each other and I believe you do, you will find a way to deal with arguments.

    When we bought our house, we were both living at our parents house. We thought about getting married but that was going to cost so much, we’d rather spend it on the house we bought. So we didn’t marry and we moved in together but it was the first time for both of us. We had never lived alone or had roommates. But we made it, we had some huge fights the first years but today we still live happily together.

  3. This post was really cute… I like how you left most readers on the edge about what the first time experience was that you were talking about. (Although I already knew :)).

    I love living with Dustin despite the few annoying things that will come with living with anyone. Last night he decided to randomly make a cake (from a box) all on his own. We just have so much fun together and hanging around the house is great. I’m sure you’ll feel the same way. Huxley, on the other hand, is not a good roommate because he never cleans up after himself, gets hair all over the house, and he doesn’t pitch in financially. Good thing he’s really cute!

  4. I am not going to be living with Brian until we get married too. We have never lived with a significant other and we often thought about it but we both wanted to do it the “right way” I guess (as my mother puts it too). Plus I don’t even know what my parents would do if we had lived together before marriage. It is hard at times but I look forward to living with him more and more each day and I can’t wait! I know it will be an adjustment but I think it will be fun and new and exciting!

  5. Oh how exciting! It is going to be so fun 🙂 Technically Bri and I have never lived together and our one year anniversary is this Sunday! Gotta love deployment. Before he joined the Navy he essentially lived at my place and prior to deployment all of my stuff was moved down to VB, ready for me to move in! I’m looking forward to finally living with him soon. 😀

  6. Hubs and both lived with our parents until we got married too! It was SOOO awesome going home to our very first apartment together. Definitely worth waiting!! It felt like “playing house” for a long time too, which was fun. 🙂

  7. Mark and I won’t be living together until after we’re married. I do wonder what it will be like, but I think it will create some great stories for the future. 🙂

  8. awesome post. very cute.

    this is the first time i am living with a boy too.
    my advice would be to be flexible. the actual move in and the firt few weeks are NOT a reflection of how the rest will be. the bf and I were at each others throats for the fisrt 4 days of the move.
    remember that everyone has their own quirks, our style and different visions of what ‘clean’ means. hahahahh

    u will love it. enjoy!

  9. My advice is simple…. pick your battles, and guilt trips don’t help ANYONE. You will have enough to worry about with combining finances and moving cities and other everyday struggles that couples go through. You don’t want your fights to be over things you will forget about the next day. You will see things of him that you may not like, and him of you, things that you can hide when you don’t live together, but all that will be out in the open. Always make compromises, and remember the reasons why you DO love him, even as he is clipping his toenails on the coffee table. YUCK. But still not worth a fight or a guilt trip 🙂 The good times and having the one you love next to you every day and night make it all worth it. And Jessica was so right, it is so much fun. The first year is the hardest, and will not be a reflection on the rest of your lives. Once in that groove, everything changes and your real life begins. Have fun!

  10. Are you living together yet or waiting until the wedding? I think we like having a google calendar to know each other’s schedules. also you kind of learn each other’s quirks but me and my hubby found that one of the things that made us know we could be together because we could live together. but no worries at all if you have not. i found when you love someone so much, the little annoying quirks are not annoying at all:) it will be great i am sure! congrats

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