The Experiment: Day 5

It’s getting harder and harder to fit in these experiments before our celebration, but we are doing our damnedest to stay as true to the experiment as possible.

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The KY Intimacy Experiment Day five… 

We were challenged to engage in an activity that was new to both of us. Something that neither of us had ever done together before. The suggestions were to take a class, sing karaoke together, or go out to lunch…etc.

It’s crunch time around these parts and I don’t know about you, but the courthouse was screaming our name. I asked J. Alabama how he felt about taking a little trip down to the courthouse.

And you know…making it all official. 😉 Oh how I love him.

He simply smiled and said…well it’s definitely not something either of us have done before.

And that was that. We made a little lunch date, which I’ll have you know is something we do from time to time. But honestly not enough. So I welcomed the chance to see him during the mid day, and squeeled when we pulled up to the front of the courthouse.

Oh gosh, we are really doing this. We are really doing this!

We took our number, waited our turn and filled out the necessary paperwork.

And I can honestly say there is nothing more exciting, than making it official with the one you love.

Well I guess it’s legal now…not quite official.  You’ll just have to wait 9 more days for that!

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I wrote this while participating in a blog campaign on behalf of K-Y® Brand and also received product samples to help facilitate my review. For more information, visit the K-Y Intimacy Experiment tab on Couples Place.

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The Experiment: Day 4

*I am participating in The K-Y Intimacy experiment and will be blogging about my thoughts and experiences during this process.*

Last night’s experiment was exactly what we both needed.

The theme of the day was to get outside your comfort zone. At a certain point in any relationship things get a little too comfortable.

You know what I mean…like leaving the door open while using the bathroom, or clipping your toe nails in front of your partner. (Not that I would ever do either of those but still)…

Our actual experiment last night involved being uncomfortable in the sense of seeing each other for all that we are. You know, in the bare flesh.

I of course immediately skipped ahead in the experiment to the part that involved a massage. Because who doesn’t love a back massage right?

What I took from last night’s experiment was to make a little extra effort wherever I can.

To me that means this… giving back massages to J. Alabama (he always gives to me, but I don’t give as much to him, maybe retiring my comfy pajamas one night and upgrading them to something more appealing to the eye, or even just putting away the computer for the night (sorry bloggies) and just read a book next to my love instead.

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We are still loving these little challenges in the experiment and it’s honestly forcing us to be more intimate during a time that it’s needed most.

I say needed most, because my head is spinning everynight from wedding plannning. But the experiment reminds me what I’m doing it all for.

For him. And for US!

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I wrote this while participating in a blog campaign on behalf of K-Y® Brand and also received product samples to help facilitate my review. For more information, visit the K-Y Intimacy Experiment tab on Couples Place.

The Experiment: Day 3

Last night’s experiment presented somewhat a challenge for us we had booked several wedding related appointments in the early evening. But in the name of K-Y I was determined to make it work!

The experiment called for rediscovering that newness feeling  in our relationship. You know those butterflies you had the first time you and your significant other met? Yeah…that!

(This was taken shortly after we began dating.  I was super tired after a wedding, but can honestly remember how amazing his kisses felt that night. Especially because this was the night he first referred to me as his girlfriend). 

So our task was to find that feeling again, but was suggested to do so in the way of roleplaying.

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I figured there was no better way to re-create this newness feeling then by going on a “first date”.

So after our wedding appointments, we went our separate ways and planned to meet up at a bar at a certain time.

I got all prettied up in a fun summer dress and actually got a little nervous before our meeting. I pulled up to the bar and saw his car was already there and walked in pretending like I was going to meet him for the first time.

And there I spotted him,  cock-gobbler  in hand.

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He looked up from his drink and nodded over at me to come sit.

Then I asked him about himself. He proceeded to tell me about his investment banking ventures as well as his travels to foreign lands. I said something about how I loved yoga and we giggled as we tried to pretend we were two other people on a first date.

All was going well, until I realized I knew the bartender and his girlfriend. And it was too hard to explain that we were on a second first date, and oh yeah we were sort of trying not be ourselves.

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Once we broke back into our normal characters, we continued to enjoy ourselves over conversations of our future life together.

We talked about our finances and how we are going to set-up our joint bank accounts, and even talked about future purchases we need to save our money for. Romantic I know! But honestly we got a lot of personal and much needed discussion out of the way.

Who knew a few cock-gobblers and talk of finances would spark those feelings of newness again. Or maybe it was just a Wild Turkey buzz.

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We were having such a great time! We managed to stay at the bar for a few hours just talking and laughing like we had when we first started dating.

I realized then that this was something we really needed. Just to hang out like friends in a neutral place with just each other.

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Then he took me to Pie Hole for a late night slice of the pizza and tried to teach me how to play Donkey Kong on an old table top game system.  And proceeded to laugh at me as I failed horribly.

It was the most fun we’ve had in such a long time!

I’m loving that each day of this experiment brings out different things in our relationship and helps us to grow even closer.

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I wrote this while participating in a blog campaign on behalf of K-Y® Brand and also received product samples to help facilitate my review. For more information, visit the K-Y Intimacy Experiment tab on Couples Place.

The Experiment: Day 2

*I am participating in The K-Y Intimacy experiment and will be blogging about my thoughts and experiences during this process.*

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The first part of the experiment for day 2 was all about reflecting on the connections made with your partner outside the bedroom.

Our first task at hand was to determine how often we engage in certain physical activities.

Such as kissing, holding hands, saying I love you, complimenting each other, emailing each other, checking in on one another throughout the day, doing chores together, participating in mutual hobbies….etc.

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After discussing these different activities we felt pretty darn good about our relationship as we pretty much do them all together, (except I’m an email person and he is not). We’ll work on that! 🙂

I’ve been told that we may still be in the “love bubble” but I like to think that kissing, holding hands, and complimenting each other is something we will always do. It’s been over two years and we are still going strong!

According to the K-Y Experiment Intimacy handbook, touching your lover is very important. Positive touches (even just holding hands and kisses throughout the day) actually cause the brain to produce the chemical oxytocin, which in turn helps to create a sense of emotional intimacy, and also helps relieve stress and improve mood.

Bring on the positive touches! Anything to relieve stress and improve mood is exactly what I need these days.

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So far, J. Alabama and I are just enjoying these little moments during the experiment where we just get to focus on one another.

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I wrote this while participating in a blog campaign on behalf of K-Y® Brand and also received product samples to help facilitate my review. For more information, visit the K-Y Intimacy Experiment tab on Couples Place.

The Experiment: Day #1

Things are spicing up over here! 

I am excited to announce that I won a chance to participate in the K-Y Intimacy Experiment from Drunk Auntie awhile back.

And I couldn’t have been more ecstatic when my fun box arrived over the weekend.

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At first I thought the package might be a wedding present, but upon further inspection the words K-Y caught my eye. We’ll just call this an “early” wedding present to both J. and I.

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The K-Y Intamacy experiment is a 10 day experiment that was developed to help spice things up in the bedroom as well as help couples to reconnect on a more intimate level.

When I thought about the timing of this experiment, I wondered how could we possibly need to spice things up in our lives right now, we are 18 days away from marrying eachother. But once I thought more about it, I realized this is the absolute PERFECT time to jump start a lifetime of love and intimacy together.

With all the wedding planning comes not a lot of time or focus for anything else. So J. Alabama and I vowed to take on this 10 day experiment as a way to become even closer before our big day.

So I will be blogging about my experience of the experiment over the next 10 days.

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We kicked off the experiment last night!

Day #1: Our project was to create a “Love Nest”.

With J. Alabama moving into my apartment in a few weeks, this project came as a godsend. Let’s turn this mess into a  love nest! 🙂

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We were encouraged to add candles and sensual smells to the room as well as doing away with all clutter.

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I realized that I have no framed pictures of us in my house and bought some cheap and cutsie frames from target to frame a few of our favs.

And I set up the iPad to the Damien Rice station on Pandora to get us into “the mood”.

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The after picture had the look and feel of a hotel room! Love it!

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Who knew that just closing the doors would block out all that noise of the cluttered closet.

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Part two of the experiment for Day 1 was to reap the rewards of our hard labor of making our love nest.

The candles, the mood music and lack of a mess and clutter made it so J. Alabama and could fully focus on one another for the entire night. It was definitely a night that ended in a firework show. 😉

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I wrote this while participating in a blog campaign on behalf of K-Y® Brand and also received product samples to help facilitate my review. For more information, visit the K-Y Intimacy Experiment tab on Couples Place.